A healthy heritage, a happy home

A healthy heritage, a happy home

Just as the history of all human beings leads through the encounter, the history of one person is made through meeting. If you are able to perform any of your abilities, it is also a legacy given to you through encounters.

We humans live in a network of various encounters. However, among these many meetings, the first thing to consider is the meeting. It's a family meeting.

Perhaps there will be no denying that the family has had the most decisive influence on forming today's self. That is why the good experiences and the painful experiences that you have experienced in a family are important factors to understand yourself.


To understand a tree, you need to know the soil that it is rooting in, and you must know the climate that it has experienced as it grows.

It is very important to think carefully about the influence of the soil and climate of my family, which is the growth of a tree called 'I'.

So in order to understand who I am, I need to understand my father and mother, who are the most important figures for me. Furthermore, in order to understand father and mother, it is important to know the grandparents and grandmothers who are most important to them.

Reflecting on the history of the encounter in the household is a very important task to know and understand myself.


"My grandparents and grandmothers lived in such a way, and what kind of person was you. So they seem to have handed down this spiritual heritage to my father. My mother-in-law's mother had such a character and seemed to have inherited her character and spiritual legacy to my mother.

Father and mother with such a background meet and marry in this way and have given birth to me and my brothers, and their attitude of life has affected me so much. So I have this kind of personality and hurt. "


The wounds received after marriage can be said to be floating wounds in the middle. Therefore, when you see a suitable instrument, it will heal clean.


However, if you are injured by parents at home during the growth process, it is very difficult to extract because the root is very deep. It takes a lot of time and effort and requires a healing process in several stages.


What kind of inheritance inherited from parents during childhood is an important determinant of a person's course of life.

As a child, we realize how important it is to be affected by the meeting with our parents, how we have influenced them through their encounter with our children, and how important it is to inherit and inherit them.


We can also imagine that conflicts and unity between married couples may vary depending on the degree of marriage they have received from their parents.

Therefore, it is very important to know exactly what heritage inherited from her family is, to continue to inherit heritage, and to prevent heritage from failing.

 For example, a man who grew up watching his father swing his fist to his family is usually the head of violence. I inherited my fist from my parents. So, when something happens, you instantly and reflexively wrestle from your fists without any thought.

However, some people who inherit the same inheritance from their parents do not use violence. He is a man who has been able to control himself through training and self-help.

But these people also fight against their violence with the power to die in order not to use violence. It experiences internal conflict. It is different from the fact that a person who grows up under parents who do not use violence does not use violence without conflict. There is no way for a person who inherited violence to lose violence without any conflict.

Therefore, when married, two people with different backgrounds, that is, two people who have inherited a totally different legacy from their parents, are forced to suffer conflicts.

However, I often see people around me when they meet and live happily. In this case it is clear that the couple would have tried to tear each other out. To live well together, I would have tried my best to do it.


With their tearful efforts, their children will inherit a good heritage and naturally make a beautiful and healthy home.

Parents are striving to make a good tradition by cutting off the wrong legacy If the parents raised their children born naturally healthy and have a large bowl can flow smoothly and happily live.

As I grew up, I saw my father treat my mother tenderly, but I did not see him giving a deep heart.

Parents' behavior is a textbook for a child. It is natural that I can not love my wife deeply because I have not learned a subject that deeply loves my wife. I do not even know how to deeply love. So our marriage was a series of dissonance.

The moments of crisis came, but our couple struggled to give their children a good legacy.

Developing something that is not learned and creating a new tradition is not easy. Every time I tried to suppress the natural nature of violence and insensitivity and to pursue peace, the feelings of anger were driven.

Sometimes, no matter how hard I try, I could not overcome the desire of nature. At that time, we voiced our determination that we would no longer give our children the pain and conflict we suffered.

Holding a firm impression, hugging my wife and children, walking with my hands was an awkward act to me.


It was too painful for me to write a textbook called equality, love, and reconciliation that should be done in the home, even if I left the textbook called "Father", which had been made up of other households.

Especially, it was very difficult to control and control me in front of the desire to exert self-centered desire and violence, and desire to hate opponent.

But my efforts had to be sincere in order not to be hypocritical. Thanks to these efforts, I think that our daughters are the happiest couple in the world.


A person who has grown up under a special parenting system can naturally express love in his marriage. Even if you do not try hard, you can naturally grab your hand or hug it, or rub your skin. It does not hurt your self-esteem by helping each other.

It is because the act of love that I have seen while growing is latent in the unconscious, and is applied naturally in marriage.

The difference between a person who makes a good tradition in his own household and a good legacy is enormous.

The former needs the effort to gather thoughts, take courage, and put into practice even the very small acts of love,
 It appears to behave naturally.
While the former must suppress feelings of anger or violent tendencies, the latter can treat feelings of anger in a peaceful way without effort. In that sense, the former is like a lonely projection. This lonely struggle of one person will inherit a good legacy to his descendants for generations.


Recently, the divorce rate in Korea has surged and it is the second highest among the OECD countries. Unlike the outward appearance of a country that has undergone rapid growth and development, individual households are becoming increasingly ill.

The cause of the home shake and crisis is not in the other place. It is just in the home. If you look at where the wounds of those who want to be healed with various pain come from, it can be seen that most of them started in the home.


A child who is wounded in the process of growth is extremely married because he does not have the power to overcome difficulties, so he chooses extreme divorce.

In addition, when children who are wounded in a shaky home become teenagers, the youth world becomes a world full of problems, and where the problem youth grow up and stay as adults, whether they are home, work, or social organizations, It is budding.


Home-based problems are social, political, educational, and even religious.

In fact, the cause of the decline of the American church now derives from the destruction of the family. A child who grows up in a parent 's apathy in the shaky parents' side is wounded, becomes a teenager, derails drugs or commits a crime, and becomes an adult and becomes a culprit of various social problems.


This vicious cycle of influence is going to go up to the church, naturally, fewer people are looking for the church, and the church is empty.

What kind of inheritance this one inherits through the family has a great impact on not only the whole life of one individual, but also the place of all the lives in which we live.


The people who earned the most Nobel Prize winners in the world are the Israelites. Even if all of the Jews scattered around the globe are combined, only a few 20 million minority people play a key role in various fields of politics, economy, and culture all over the world. This means that the spirit and spirit of this people is so healthy.

Most scholars are looking for reasons why the nation of Israel can have a healthy spirit and spirit. That is, Israel's healthy family life and home education are behind it. The role of family is very important.

Are your homes healthy now?

What legacy did you receive from your parents?

What kind of inheritance did you inherit from your child?

Passing a healthy home legacy, this is a shortcut to making a happy home.